25 Steps From Meet To Sex

Based on Mystery’s TV show “The Pickup Artist” here are 25 steps to take from before the approach to sex.

This is the genius of Mystery and his “Mystery Method.” And it’s highly effective. Especially on the most beautiful women, like this one (yes, even if it's Adrianna Lima).


1. Avatar:

  • Grooming: showering, smelling good, and no hair sticking out in weird places.
  • Pad and Car: Clean, smelling nice, drinks available.
  • Threads: Accessorize. And have at least one piece of stand-out clothing… like a black or white boa. It gets girls to approach you. And it makes you stand out from the blur of other guys.

David Navarro sporting a boa. Wearing at least one interesting item of clothing often gets women to approach YOU!

2. Know Isolation Spot and Bounce Location

Know where you're going to isolate girls beforehand

Know where you're going to bounce girls beforehand. Could be a nearby pizza joint or diner.

Also, have gum (bad breath kills game), condoms (dress for success), and phone (type in phone numbers).



3. Smile. Slow Movements.

Smile=warmth, friendliness. Slow Movements=Confidence.

4. Follow Three Second Rule.

Ask “How’s your night going?” or “Having fun tonight?” to the first persons you see, to EVERYONE… including bouncers and bartenders. Helps you to warm up. And you look sociable, fun. And like you belong.

5. Select a target

...before the approach.

6. Approach the set

...over your shoulder with a prepared opener.

7. Body rock during the opener

…as if you’re about to walk away

8. Deliver your opener.

Talk to the Obstacles and to the Guy First BEFORE the target. Also kino EVERYONE, so it doesn’t look like you’re only after the target.


9. Neg the target right away

...within your first two sentences. This is NOT optional. The longer you wait, the harder it’ll be to do later. Neg within the first 2 sentences. Also known as play-fighting and "flirting." Creates sexual tension. It also makes you a “challenge” rather than a guy “hitting on her.”

10. Multiple-thread three prepared “attraction” gambits

...to the set. Make sure they include DHV spikes. And they add value to the set, rather than take it away. Address your DHVs to your set, not to your target. Speak with your target only in the language of play-fighting. One of your threads can be a qualifier. Speak slowly, like you’re in charge, and speak with enthusiasm. Enthusiasm is contagious.

11. Lock-in and lean back

...while multiple-threading. For example, lean against the bar or a wall. That way you look like girls are hitting on you. Give a false time constraint while locking in. “I’ve only got a sec, my friends are over there…” Then continue with your prepared story or gambit.

12. Ask “So, how does everyone know each other?”

You’ll get valuable info on the availability of the target, as well as any possible logistic issues.


13.  If she’s not spoken for, state your intent.

Examples:  “I’ve sort of been alienating your friend. Is it all right if I speak to her for a couple of minutes?” They always say, “Uh, sure. If it’s okay with her.” OR “Are you single?” You can qualify the target here while in set or later in isolation.



14. Isolate her and lead her to the couches.

You can isolate the set too (especially if it’s a two-set).

14a. If a two-set is isolated

...have the target sit next to you so she’s in the middle. Make sure to talk with your obstacle on the end.  Perform a rune reading, an ESP test, or any other demonstration that will fascinate and intrigue them. Her friend doesn’t feel excluded. Meanwhile, you’re kino-ing your target.

14b. Isolate target from the two-set.

15. Connect with your target, qualify her, give her a statement-of-interest.

For example, “Beauty is common but what’s rare is a great energy and outlook on life. Tell me, what do you have inside that would make me want to know you as more than a mere face in the crowd?” If she begins to list qualities, this is a positive IOI. This gets her investing and chasing you. Give her an SOI (Statement of Interest) after she qualifies. For example: ”You seem pretty cool.”

NOTE: You can qualify your target earlier before you've isolated her, or you can qualify here during isolation. Either way works.

16. Kino escalate towards a kiss.

Trust test is one way here.

17. Kiss gambit.

For example, “On a scale of one to ten, how good of a kisser are you? (Her Answer) Well, let’s find out.” OR “I’m doing everything I can not to kiss you right now. But I’m not even in that headspace.”

18. Kiss her, but break it off first.

No making out in public. Save that for private. Leaves her wanting more too.

19. Close.

Number close by inviting her to an industry mixer with specific date and time. Always invite her to do something you're already doing, and she can tag along. You're fine with or without her.

After you get her digits, talk with her for five more minutes to avoid buyer’s remorse. The key to a solid number close: spending at least 25-40 minutes with her.

After you've talked for five more minutes you can say "I'm hungry, let's grab a bite to eat" and you can bounce her to an eatery. An elusive obvious: You don't have to actually do the thing you said you were going to do. If you can do a "mini-date" now, do it now.


20. Bounce her to another venue.

When you enter a new venue together, for example the eatery, it has the “couple” feel. Also, the more variety of places she has memories of being with you in, the longer it seems that she’s known you.

Spend between 4-10 hours building comfort, 7 hours on average. Less than that you're in danger of becoming "The Player" and creating buyer's remorse for your target. More than that you're in danger of getting "Friend Zoned" by her.


21. Bounce her to seduction location

…your pad (or hers). Give her a NON-sexual reason for coming up. “You should check out my aquarium. It’s really cool. Then I’m kicking you out.” When she’s in the seduction location, don’t pounce. Get her a drink. Talk for a little bit.



22. Foreplay.

You’ve already been kissing her and breaking it off during comfort, right? So, once you’re in private it’s a natural to begin kissing more and to physically escalate.


23. Disarm any last minute resistance.

Disarming resistance: agree, stop, and try again later. You can also preemptively disarm the resistance during comfort by dropping small hints that lets her know you’re going to stick around after you’ve had sex with her.

S-3: SEX

24. First Time Sex.

Have sex twice as a courtesy.

25. Manage expectations.

Send her a text afterwards. See her no more than once or twice a week, unless you want a monogamous relationship. There’s nothing wrong with seeing multiple women. That’s called dating.

Check out Mystery’s TV show “The Pickup Artist Seasons 1 & 2” to see all this in action. You can view it and own it on Amazon’s digital library for $8-$9 for each season. It’s an incredible education.

But the best education, of course, is to get out in the field and practice.

You out in the field killing it.

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